The death of a pet is a deeply emotional experience for any family, and for children it can be especially significant. For many, it is their first real encounter with grief. Handled with gentleness and honesty, it can also be a chance to help them build healthy ways to process loss—both now and in the future.
At Home Goodbye, we often support families navigating these tender moments. One of the most common questions we’re asked is how to involve children in saying goodbye.
Start with Honesty and Reassurance
Children understand more than we often realise. The best place to start is with clear, age-appropriate language.
Phrases like “they’re very poorly and can’t get better” or “we’re going to help them pass peacefully” offer clarity without overwhelming detail. These words acknowledge the seriousness of the moment while creating space for comfort and care.
Let Children Lead the Way
Some children may want to be there for the goodbye, while others may prefer to say farewell beforehand. Both responses are completely valid.
There is no one-size-fits-all approach. The most important thing is to meet your child where they are emotionally and to adapt to what feels right for them.
You might suggest writing a letter to the pet, drawing a picture, or choosing a special photo to keep. Small rituals like lighting a candle, reading a poem, or planting a flower can also offer comfort and a sense of inclusion.
Support, Listen and Include
Let your child ask questions. Give them space to talk about their feelings or memories. It’s okay not to have all the answers—what matters most is that they feel heard and supported.
Including children in the process, even in small ways, can help them feel grounded and reassured at a time when things may feel uncertain.
Watch the Reel: Supporting Children Through Pet Loss
For more gentle guidance, you can watch our short video on this topic:
🎥 Watch now: How Children Can Say Goodbye
In this reel, Dr Paul shares simple, practical ways to help children say goodbye in a way that feels meaningful to them.
We’re Here to Support You
If you’re based in London and are considering in-home euthanasia or planning ahead for your pet’s final days, our team at Home Goodbye is here to help.
We offer kind, respectful end-of-life care in the comfort of your home—because every goodbye deserves to be handled with compassion.
Visit our Contact Page or call us today to speak to a member of our team.
